What is dating and marriage like in spain
Sandhya: Indian weddings are, like, 10 days, and it's not about the bride and the groom. We knew maybe 50 or 100 of them, our close friends and immediate relatives. It's like, Sandhya: The girl goes with the guy to his place. So it is also kind of the excitement of knowing the other person. It's like, " Does it feel like it's too fast because you guys hadn't spent that much time together? If you think about it, then there are all these crazy thoughts that come, and you have to stop thinking and go with the way you feel. I think we make it complicated when we overthink things.
I coordinated my vacation such that I went to India like a week before my marriage and stayed there for, like, 5 to 10 days after. Ankur: I was pretty relaxed because after a long feasting and party, then you enjoy the process, but then you want it to be over with after a certain time and that's really the first time. It's also about exploring the other person's excitement of it. Talking about each other, talking about your stories from the past.
With him, whenever I spoke, it felt like I [had] known him forever. I had called and chatted with several girls in the past, but it never really worked out for me.
Before they got married, she lived in India, he lived in America, and they met when Sandhya's parents placed a newspaper ad (in the "matrimonial column") looking for potential husbands for her. Sandhya: We fight over the silliest things possible and then after we've screamed, we think that it was so silly. Back home, the girl has to keep quiet and let her husband dictate everything. Are there things you wish you would have had an opportunity to hash out before you got married? So probably I have known him from my previous life or something. We would love to travel, advance our careers, support each other, and still discover each other every day. Ankur: I think marriage is a partnership — an equal partnership. And I always think that more than 50 percent of marriages end up nowhere, even though most of them are after long-term dating. What's been your biggest fight since you got married? Sandhya: It's weird — we're on the same page about these big decisions without even discussing them. Sandhya: It's folklore back home [that] when you get married, you walk around fire seven times, seven rotations, and it's said you're going to be married for seven lifetimes. What are you guys most looking forward to in your marriage? Ankur: All we want to do currently at this state of life is have fun and travel around before we have kids as much as possible. Obviously we both are imperfect and we have our own flaws, but as a partner, how can I bring out the best in him and how can he do the same and how can we support each other? I don't think we have a certain image we have set our lives to. Once you were engaged you could hang out more right? Ankur: Yeah, that's the best part of arranged marriages. Sandhya: It's about making this relationship perfect.